Pay it Forward

Pay it Forward...3 simple yet powerful words, their meaning ever so strong. Imagine doing 3 good deeds, 3 things for 3 different people, 3 things which they are unable to do for themselves...and instead of wanting them to pay you back for the good deed you have done, you ask them to pay it forward and do a random kind deed for 3 other ppl...from the 3 u helped, they each will help 3 more, making 9 ppl..n it goes on n on...

now imagine this...ur down on ur luck...life just seems like a dead end road to u...u hav lost everything u ever loved n treasured...n u lost even faith in urself...u feel useless and unworthy of all the goodness in life bcoz of tht single mistake u made..there seems to b no light at the end of this tunnel anymore...n all of a sudden, this stranger comes along n they do u one simple, single kind and random deed...tht simple human warmness...tht simple loving kindness..n all of a sudden tht hatred u hv for urself...suddenly melts away...someone believes in u...suddenly u get a confidence...suddenly it just seems as if life wasn't as bad as u think..n ppl didn't hate or lookd down on u as much as u think...how does tht feel?

can u imagine spreading such a feeling to 3 random ppl?...doing something to someone so random...accepting some kindness from a stranger knowing u will nv see tht stranger ever again...how does tht feel?...tht is among the thoughts in my mind when i was watching this inspiring movie...it speaks of a boy who thought of this idea for his social studies project...initially everyone was really skeptical of it, however although he fails to help the ppl which he wants to help...he unintentionally helpd or inspired those ppl which he didn't intend to help

through such a simple kind deed...tht bit of faith n confidence he had in the goodness of ppl...it saved many people's lives...tht is how powerful one simple kind deed can be!

there is a quote in the movie which i rmb i realized awhile back ago..."life is shit"..which was true...with the 3 meals we get on our table...our furnished homes...our computers, laptops and handphones...we are BLINDED...curtains of ignorance tht covers n shields us away to the real suffering happening out there..out there...there r ppl struggling to make ends meet...as i comfortably sit in an air conditioned room typing this blog...someone out there is wondering how to get their next meal on their table, someone is fearing n holding on to their very dear lives afraid tht the war will come, someone is in the midst of a natural disaster hoping tht they will get through it alive..okay, save the drama..but reflect on this...life is really tough for ppl out there...ppl don't sort to killing and robbing because they enjoy it...they do it bcoz they made a wrong choice in finding a way to deal with their problems...ppl dont bcome drug addicts n drunks bcoz they enjoy it...they know its bad for them..but they just dont feel strong enough to face n deal w their problems...there r ppl out there working 3 to 4 jobs just so tht they can get the next meal on their tables...some ppl even have families to feed n do u know how much a parent can hate his/herself for being unable to provide for his/her kid?...its the worst feeling u can ever feel, failing to do ur duties as a parent...so there...how about tht?...

with knowledge of so much suffering out there...does it not motivate u to wanna do better?...even a smile can do wonders for ppl...so yea...rmb this...life is suffering...life is especially terrible sometimes coz bad things seem to happen all at the same time..this is because karma requires the right conditions to ripen, when a bad thing happens, the proper bad conditions tht arise allows for more bad karma to ripen, therefore we must be patient and face it with equanimity...realize tht when this passes, u r able to dissipate some of ur bad karma at least...so be patient w it, n rmb "this too shall pass"...at the same time, realize tht ppl out there feel the same...so always b nice to ppl as it really makes a difference...

i have a personal philosophy which i would like to share w ppl...do u know how sometimes we meet w really nasty ppl? ppl which make u just wanna hate them?...well..don't...from what i realize..the nastiest ppl r usually the nicest ppl, do u know why? as u all r nice ppl, im sure u know tht nice ppl care alot...n the more u care...it seems tht the more u get hurt sometimes...does it not?...well those nasty ppl were once like u...they were nice..n they cared ALOT...n maybe something not so nice happend to them..n they just didn't know how else to deal w it but to b nasty?...i saw this in GLEE haha!! the bad person, this woman was always criticizing the so calld good guy about his hair, being too full n curly n oily n all tht stuff...one day he got pissd n criticized her back for having always short n unchanging hairstyle n very hurtful things...now although she was portrayed as bad...nobody knew her story...when she was young, her parents weren't always around...so she used to hv to take care of her handicappd sister by herself...it was a tough time n when this famous singer came about tht time, singing songs about confidence n women empowerment, she idolized the celebrity..being young she wantd to b like her idol which had blond hair, so her sister n her found all the chemicals they could use for dying in their house n they bleached her hair blond. but the chemicals were too strong n they spoild her hair roots, n ever since then she could only hv short hair n the colour was always like tht...anyways it goes to show how ppl have so many problems n we shouldn judge them sometimes...

to recap...here are todays lessons,
1. Do kind deeds!
2. Life is full of suffering, lets do something to make it better for others!
3. When facing problems, reflect that this too shall pass n take it w equanimity
4. Don't judge others!