Inspired by "Not Sure!" by Ajahn Chah...
i read this awesome2 article tht day by Ajahn Chah, a famous Thai teacher, he was speaking of things n the nature of things in general, tht they were unsure...uncertain...subject to conditions...subject to change...n if we cling on it...or if we rely (refer to post on "Reliable") on it...then we r bound to b unhappy!
which made me realize something...when we like something...its bcoz of conditions...previously i dont like this n this...but maybe after i see my friend do this n this...suddenly i think...eh? its not so bad after all...n i accept this n this...
n another ugly truth arises...i love u bcoz of this n this...if it werent bcoz of conditions in life to make u who u r...would i love u as much?...its like when we hv a crush on someone...n we think...wow...i hope we can b together...im sure the person is like this n this...n when im sad, the person will do that n that for me...n when its my birthday the person will do this n that for me...n they will b kind, nice, smart, good looking, generous etc etc etc...but thats why its calld a crush...it is not real...we dont love the person, we love the person for who we THINK they will b...n then we actually coupled w the person...n we realize...wait! this person is selfish, this person is greedy, this person never does what i EXPECTED them to do...n suddenly...no matter how good looking they r...we realize we dont love them as much as we thought...
n lets just b honest...can we even love ourselves, our families n our dearest friends as much??? r there not times when we disappoint ourselves n regret for a mistake, when we could hv just forgiven ourself knowing we did not do that mistake w wisdom? r there not times when our family gets into disagreement w us, n we hate them thinking why cant they b more supportive? r there not times when our dearest friends make mistakes, n we suddenly dont feel so close w them anymore??...
so...where m i leading to with all these?...
the fact is this...nothing in life is certain...if we really choose to love somebody...if we really choose to do something...there will b the goods n bads as nothing n nobody is perfect...but once we have made the decision, lets try to stick w it...n realize that this person or this thing is conditional...n one day, this thing or person will leave me as well in search for something better...
so every time u find urself liking something or someone...hating something or someone...liking n hating something or someone...neither liking nor hating something or someone...tell urself...NOT SURE!! bcoz its true...u preference for tht thing will change soon...
to quote from somewhere i read...we should not b puppets to our likes n dislikes...as it will lead to a miserable death!...b mindful!! b steadfast!
Sadhu Sadhu Sadhu
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